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Post by jeannie812 on Dec 20, 2017 5:10:35 GMT
I couldn't take it anymore! I knew I couldn't count on her as a confidant, and I found I couldn't even make small talk. She demands I explain how I know this. Constant put-downs and she interrupts me in mid sentence to correct me, or demand an explanation. Then she jumps on my explanation to say I'm wrong. I feel crazy just trying to explain how crazy she was making me. For years I tried to be her friend, cause it's a rural area and people are spread out. Most people out here are mooches, or just down right mean. Yet, with my neighbor, I can't even walk across the street to get my mail without being on alert. If she happens to be driving down the street while I'm walking to my mailbox. She will try to run me down. I have to jump quick to get out of the way. Cause, she has to be first to get her mail. It is criminal !! I don't know if she would run me over if I didn't jump out of the way! I have never been hit by a car in my life, and I don't want to try it out.
I would love to call the cops, but it's my word against hers.
I stopped talking to her.
She can be a friend here and there. Yet, how much abuse should I put up with? Always hoping she will be normal sometimes?
I cut the cord.
And, I gotta point out the anger on her face when she is running me down. It is demonic.
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Post by janine on Dec 27, 2017 18:41:03 GMT
Well done on cutting out toxic relationships.
Having healthy boundaries is important for a safe and joyful life.
After leaving my abusive ex boyfriend and had therapy, it felt good to learn how to apply healthy relating to other areas of my life, including friends, neighbors, etc. It takes time and it is not easy. Give yourself credit for creating a safe space for yourself.
It sounds like she was very invasive and it reminded me of an old "friend" I have recently cut ties with. The constant demands of "telling her how I REALLY felt" when my answers weren't what she expected, and accusations like "You're not avoiding answering my questions? Take a quiet moment at work today to tell me how you REALLY feel."
It was making me uncomfortable and felt like she was trying to be in my head.At some point she even complained about 'so little contact between us and demanded I explain that to her.' Which wasn't even true. When I pointed that out to her, with screenshots as proof for how much I had reached out, and way more than she did, she just pretended it was a misunderstanding and changed topics, claiming she was unable to reach out as much since she was pregnant. (To this day I am unsure how a pregnancy keeps an unemployed person from sending a text on the phone)
When she finally said that she was unhappy with my replies to her questions (she would text me several times out of the blue asking if I was happy and other very personal and out of context questions) I had had enough.
Normal people respect boundaries, leave you space to feel safe, and allow you to choose when and if you want to share personal information.
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Post by jeannie812 on Jan 1, 2018 5:33:26 GMT
Thank you for the feedback. Yes, she is invasive. She really dishes it out, yet has no memory of anything she ever said. She is mostly loudly snotty, like a spoiled brat, combative, and I saw how she can be criminal. I remember hearing her one time admitting to a mutual friend that she is a SPOILED Rotten Brat! Now she is almost 60 years old.
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