Post by helenemarry on Jan 14, 2018 21:13:15 GMT
I recently ended a 1.5 year relationship and after a month and a half he started dating a 16 year old girl(he is 22).They knew each other and used to go out often as friends but I trusted him and I never thought they will date because of the age difference.Now he is doing with her the same things that he was doing with me going to the same places,offering her gifts.
He also told me that he likes being controlling in a relationship and doesn't see a relationship based on friendship like I see it. He logged in 2 times on my facebook account without telling me and he considered that a normal thing stating that if I don't have anything to hide why be upset but I don't think this behaviour is normal in a relationship I never checked his account or looked in his phone because it is his privacy and I respect that . I told him that he can go out with friends anytime he wants because I trusted him. The main reason why we decided to end it was because he was living abroad.I wasn't sure that I want to move there and he doesn't want to return home either. I recently graduated college and learning a new language,finding a good job in a different country without any experience ,living far away from my family it was a lot to take.He isn't very close to his family like I am . We also had some arguments during our relationship ,he used to get angry sometimes even smashed his phone and called me once "stupid" for no big reason.The thing is that he was the one who did wrong but eventually I was the one who apologized.After breaking up I apologized for every mistake and told him how much it hurts to see him with that girl but he didn't care and eventually blocked my messages.I don't understand how some people move on so fast when I can't it takes me a lot of time to find a new boyfriend.I am feeling bad because I wasn't sure about the moving were he lives and that is why he found a new girl.
Do you think he was a good man and should I regret that I have lost him?
He also told me that he likes being controlling in a relationship and doesn't see a relationship based on friendship like I see it. He logged in 2 times on my facebook account without telling me and he considered that a normal thing stating that if I don't have anything to hide why be upset but I don't think this behaviour is normal in a relationship I never checked his account or looked in his phone because it is his privacy and I respect that . I told him that he can go out with friends anytime he wants because I trusted him. The main reason why we decided to end it was because he was living abroad.I wasn't sure that I want to move there and he doesn't want to return home either. I recently graduated college and learning a new language,finding a good job in a different country without any experience ,living far away from my family it was a lot to take.He isn't very close to his family like I am . We also had some arguments during our relationship ,he used to get angry sometimes even smashed his phone and called me once "stupid" for no big reason.The thing is that he was the one who did wrong but eventually I was the one who apologized.After breaking up I apologized for every mistake and told him how much it hurts to see him with that girl but he didn't care and eventually blocked my messages.I don't understand how some people move on so fast when I can't it takes me a lot of time to find a new boyfriend.I am feeling bad because I wasn't sure about the moving were he lives and that is why he found a new girl.
Do you think he was a good man and should I regret that I have lost him?