Post by anonymous13 on May 3, 2018 16:40:38 GMT
Hello, I was with my ex for 2 years. Mainly emotional and verbal abuse, but also instances of physical and sexual abuse (rape, hitting, destroying property). I was 20 and he was 6 years my senior. He was incredibly controlling with my appearance, where I went, who I spoke to, etc. He would never go out of the house, claiming he had horrendous anxiety about being in public.
He has a new gf now. And things seem completely different.
He lets her wear makeup, skirts, dresses. He goes out in public with her, as if his "crippling anxiety" is suddeny cured. He allows her to use social media.
In their pics they seem so happy. They have been together 6+ months and been on two vacations, and are always going on outings and posting pics. With me he wouldnt even go to the shops. He's constantly saying how great she is and referred to her as "better than any girlfriend I've had before".
I suffer from PTSD from what he put me through. But now he seems like a changed man, a mere year after the break up. I'm on medication and in therapy, and it's like he just CHANGED! He would always tell me I pushed him into the bad behaviours. His own mother said I was the problem, and so did he... Now I'm worried they're right!!! He remained good friends with his long term ex before me... further confirming it was ME!
Has he really changed? How else can I explain all of these changed behaviours otherwise?! I'm terrified I just simply wasn't "good enough" or "worth" changing for, and this new person is!
His job prospects and financial income have improved since the break up, could it just be I caught him in a "bad phase" and he's matured now??
I'm utterly terrified I brought all the trauma and abuse upon myself. Or I was not good enough for him to become this new great guy for...
He has a new gf now. And things seem completely different.
He lets her wear makeup, skirts, dresses. He goes out in public with her, as if his "crippling anxiety" is suddeny cured. He allows her to use social media.
In their pics they seem so happy. They have been together 6+ months and been on two vacations, and are always going on outings and posting pics. With me he wouldnt even go to the shops. He's constantly saying how great she is and referred to her as "better than any girlfriend I've had before".
I suffer from PTSD from what he put me through. But now he seems like a changed man, a mere year after the break up. I'm on medication and in therapy, and it's like he just CHANGED! He would always tell me I pushed him into the bad behaviours. His own mother said I was the problem, and so did he... Now I'm worried they're right!!! He remained good friends with his long term ex before me... further confirming it was ME!
Has he really changed? How else can I explain all of these changed behaviours otherwise?! I'm terrified I just simply wasn't "good enough" or "worth" changing for, and this new person is!
His job prospects and financial income have improved since the break up, could it just be I caught him in a "bad phase" and he's matured now??
I'm utterly terrified I brought all the trauma and abuse upon myself. Or I was not good enough for him to become this new great guy for...
