Post by Rory on Oct 8, 2014 5:47:45 GMT
My daughter and I went to her university campus today to meet with a potential dorm mate, and also to talk to the campus police and drop off all of the paperwork they asked for. We met with the student first, and my daughter seemed positive about it working out. Then we went over to the cafeteria for a late lunch, and inside, sitting at one of the tables, was her ex! We saw her, but I don't think she saw us. She is not a student, there or anywhere else, so she has no business being there. We left and went straight to campus police. We had to go over all the paperwork before they would go after her, and even then, they said they wouldn't arrest her yet, because the protection order didn't ban her from the campus, only from contacting or coming within 500 feet of my daughter. They said if they found her, they'd inform her that she was being banned from campus and escort her off. Then if she was seen on campus again, they could then arrest her. Well, by the time they got back to the cafeteria, she wasn't there anymore. So, she'll have to be caught on campus again, informed she's banned, and then be caught on campus again before they can arrest her. Unless we get the protection order amended to prohibit her from entering my daughter's campus. Then they can arrest her right off. Ugh. So frustrating. My daughter is starting back at school next week. She's trying to put on a brave face, but I could tell today had her shaken. I know it's regulations and all that, but just the thought that she'll have to show up at least two more times before anything can be done.
My daughter is sleeping right now, or trying to. She's woken up twice with bad dreams, which she says she can't talk about. Just yesterday she was saying how she just wanted to talk to her ex and say goodbye properly and ask why. But when she saw he today, she literally ran out of the cafeteria. I had to go after her. So maybe it made her realize how bad things were with her ex, and it will put her off wanting to see her again, at least for a while. I can hope.
I'm just feeling really angry. I wanted to tackle her ex today. I still want to. What else would she have been on campus for, but to find and stalk my daughter? And now watching my daughter suffering with nightmares, unable to get any real sleep. I remember those nights. I want justice for her, only I know that no matter what the legal system doles out, it will never be enough, in my eyes.
My daughter is sleeping right now, or trying to. She's woken up twice with bad dreams, which she says she can't talk about. Just yesterday she was saying how she just wanted to talk to her ex and say goodbye properly and ask why. But when she saw he today, she literally ran out of the cafeteria. I had to go after her. So maybe it made her realize how bad things were with her ex, and it will put her off wanting to see her again, at least for a while. I can hope.
I'm just feeling really angry. I wanted to tackle her ex today. I still want to. What else would she have been on campus for, but to find and stalk my daughter? And now watching my daughter suffering with nightmares, unable to get any real sleep. I remember those nights. I want justice for her, only I know that no matter what the legal system doles out, it will never be enough, in my eyes.